Can you feel it? It’s out there, somewhere, lurking like a predator in the dating jungle. Crouched in the tall grass with sweat bleeding through your headband you hold on tight to your Nikes. Your heart pounds audibly in your chest as you listen for any sounds. You can only hear your own breath echoing in the emptiness. Your instincts say “Move!”. Your fear says, “Stay!”. Your eyes nervously flit from side to side and you wonder if you should risk rising up to get a better view? You wish you were somewhere, anywhere else. You just want to avoid the whole mess. And, despite your best efforts, Valentine’s Day has found you, once again.
The messages on Valentine’s Day are clear: To be normal and happy you have to be in a relationship. Haunted by the social stigma of being single, we’ve been lead to believe that being “on your own” is somehow an intolerable situation that must be avoided at all costs.
And even though those feelings are nothing more than the “big business” marketing machines jerking at your emotions in order to sell a few more bobbles and doodads, it can feel a bit like the mean kid in class who gets everyone else to laugh by pointing out the huge zit on your forehead.
Don’t let the bastards get you down. Here are three ways to take control and empower yourself:
Volunteer: There’s no better way to shake yourself out of a funk than to help out those who are less fortunate than you are. Contact a local charity and ask how you can help out.
See A Live Band: Show up at the venue and set up in front of the stage once the music starts. Make friends with whoever you are standing next to. Talk about getting back to your friends when your drink runs dry and hit the bar and then set up somewhere else near the stage. No one needs to know you are there alone.
Have Some “ME” Time: Take the opportunity to turn off the phones, close the drapes and settle in for a quiet evening with…yourself. Get to know who you really are, what your values and beliefs are all about. Take the time to figure out in exacting detail, what you are truly looking for in a partner and what kind of person will make you happy.
And then, go out and find him/her
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