What do the economy and dating have in common? The current state of the stock market in many ways resembles someone who has lost their ability to be emotionally consistent; up 800 points, down 1000; up 300, down 700. Every step of the way, they are losing precious ground.
If we, and by we I mean everyone on the planet, were to allow ourselves to be unconcerned by the minor drops and gains of the day-to-day trading; If we weren’t watching the markets every second, demanding to know what it all means and desperately trying to hold on to every profitable cent, a lot of this instability would settle. The problem is we have invested in a strategy that is predicated on everything going in a positive direction. We have invested so much in to this one strategy, that the mere thought that we could possibly lose some ground will send us into a tailspin of irrational, fear based, behaviour.
Someone who does not have much experience with dating puts the same kind of pressures on their interactions when they go out on a date. They need things to go right. They need to make sure they say and do the right things. They need to make sure everything is perfect. This “need-iness” leads to questions like “Am I the kind of person you normally date?”, “Are you attracted to guys/girls like me?” and a whole host of reaction based questions.
Afterall, they have invested in a strategy and desperately want to hold on to every positive gain they have made during the date. Unfortunately, this strategy is steeped in fear, fear of losing the disired outcome – another date. And, this kind of behaviour is the quickest way to ensure their isn’t one.
Your biggest assets on a date is having an ability to “roll with the punches”. Even if it appears as though things are not going smoothly, you can recover quite easily by hanging back. Make a clever quip or relaxed remark, instead of frantically trying to “fix” the situation and you’ll see how easily things get back on track.
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