The Best Dating Advice

Understanding our partners is critical to creating and maintaining emotional intimacy. It may take a lot of time and effort to develop that deeper connection. The result of this effort, though, is the basic building block that allows true love to grow in a relationship. The couples who have done this are the ones that can genuinely “weather any storm”. The key for them is that over the years they have been able to open their hearts and trust their partner. They communicate openly and honestly about themselves and their feelings.

So why do we mere mortals find it so hard to effectively get our messages across and understand the ones coming from our partner? We’re all speaking the same language right? Well, not really. You can think of it like this: Men are PCs and Women are Macs. And NO, I’m not saying one is better than the other. The point I’m making is that they both do similar jobs and use similar languages to do those jobs, but they have very completely different operating systems. Whereas men tend to operate from a very analytical point of view that is simple to understand, women tend to operate from an emotional center which incorporates a lot of complex thinking into their communication.

Aware of it or not, we human beings tend to make all of our decisions based on emotional factors and then justify our choices with our rational mind. It all happens very quickly at an unconscious level and usually isn’t noticed unless someone is actually watching for it. Now, even though it’s the same process for both sexes, men tend to focus on the logical reasons for their decision and may be completely unaware they were feeling anything when they made it. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to tell you that their decision, “just felt right”. Their rationalization has more to do with listening to what their “gut” has to say about the situation.

With this perspective on how the different sexes communicate, how difficult would it be to change our tone and words to reflect the opposite sex’s “Communication Style” and maybe deepen your own emotional connections?