The Best Dating Advice

A couple of weeks ago, we talked about the best ideas for approaching and engaging someone you don’t know.

However, the best techniques in the world won’t help you, if you are not able to go over and say “something”. This is where a lot of people, especially men get stuck. Not only can they find it physically stressful, but hate the thought of making themselves vulnerable. Usually, they wind up talking themselves out of it, coming up with all kinds of reasons why they might get shot down.

I have been guilty of this in the past too. One particular St. Patrick’s day, I happened to be in a pub just after they finished serving breakfast. I spied a pretty colleen with light in her eyes, a seductive smile and a brazen attitude. She was there with some friends, her father and one of his friends.

I managed to befriend the group, but my fears had kept me from saying anything to the girl. At one point I end up in another section of the bar with the father’s friend, an Irish octogenarian. I confided in him my situation. He took a breath and looked at me with a combination of pity and understanding and offered his advice: “A faint heart never won a fair maid”.

While it hardly seemed helpful at the time, it served to remind me over the years that I had to get out of my own head and have the courage to take some action, if I was going to successfully interact with the opposite sex (let alone go home them).

So here’s your three step action plan:

1) Turn off, blot out, or kill off those nagging voices in your head that tell you you can’t do it or it won’t work out. They’re not real anyways.

2) Have something to say, preferably bold and humorous. Rehearse it beforehand. Know what direction you want to take the conversation.
This will be an enormous help when your emotions kick up and try to drag you away.

3) Realize that nothing bad is going to happen. Relax and enjoy the moment. See where the conversation leads you. This is just another human being you’re talking to, with all same hopes and fears as the rest of us.