The Best Dating Advice

I am always amazed at a woman’s ability to find the time to show up at a store and just BROWSE for a few hours. They don’t even need to buy anything to feel satisfied at the end of their experience. As a man, I like to go in, get what I want, pay for it and leave as quickly as possible. The subtle nuances of the experience are lost on me. Now this may seem like a trite example of a difference between the genders, but I believe it exposes some of the hard-wiring in our psychology.

When we want a hammer, we know to go to Home Depot. When we want a pair of socks, we know to go to Walmart. When we want winter tires, we know to go to Firestone. But where do we go when we want to meet a woman? I get this question on a fairly regular basis; as though there were some simple answer like, “Just go down to the woman store on Main Street & Vine and pick out one you like”. Absurd, right?

Well, that is kind of what is happening when men congregate with their buddies on a Friday night, waiting outside behind the red velvet ropes, listening to the hip-hop bleating out of the walls, waiting for the doorman to tell them they can go inside. We just happen to call this particular “woman store” a club or lounge or bar. The goal for many men going to clubs is to go in, get a girl they want, pay for some drinks and leave as quickly as possible with her. Not too unlike my shopping experience, eh? Hmm.

Men tend to answer the question of where to meet women using the same cognitive software that normally helps us to be successful in other areas of our lives; goal-oriented thinking and reasoning. The reason museums, dance classes, art galleries, amusement parks, arcades, concerts, etc.. are all great places to take women on dates is because all of these places are about the subtleties of an experience. They are not about attaining a certain goal or objective. Women are more likely to hang out in places that speak to their emotions. Bowling alleys and pool halls fall into both categories and work well with competitive women. The bottom line is, if you find out where the experiences are, you will find out where the women are.